Chasing One Who Isn't Chasing You

November 30, 2012

Today, I had a conversation with an old friend.  She wasn't looking herself so I asked her what was wrong.  She proceeded to tell me that the one she loves is in love with someone else.  The problem with that is that he still keeps her in the pipeline for just in case.  By that I mean that he gives her just enough rope to hang on for if it does not work out with the other one.  The funny thing is that she is always there for him to lick his wounds when his love hurts him.  He comes by and starts the conversation off with I was thinking about you today and just needed to see you.  This is always a sign ladies.  These words (from my experience) mean I have no where to go and I am not sure that my love is loving me like I want to be loved but I know that you do.  I want to speak to that NOW!!  I've seen this over and over on my journey with people around me and they always end up hurting and left behind.  When a man really loves you, he is not just dropping by every now and then.  He is not just thinking about you every so often.  Don't sit up and waste your time trying to figure this thing out.  It is obvious.  He is just needing YOU to fill HIS void.  I became wise to that early in my life and made a decision not to fall for it.  I made a decision to love me more than someone who would do that to me and still sleep at night.  Ladies it's not rocket science.  Stand up and become accountable for what you allow to hurt you.  You are a force to be reckoned with.  You are an absolute original not a copy.  Strengthen those muscles in your heart and let him know that it will not go this way.  If you are having problems with her, then work it out with her.  You am not his spare.  You am worth way more than that.  Too bad he missed it.  Come on ladies, never let someone else tell you what you are worth.  Know your value and wear it.  If not, the one being groomed for you could pass you by.  Start looking in the right direction.  Stop chasing and be chased for a change.  The fact is, you are holding all the cards.

SW