What He Really Means...

February 15, 2013

What does a man really mean when he says, he needs space?  Ladies, it is no different than when we say the same thing.  It is really just him saying that this is not quite going the way that he thought it would and he wants to step back and re-evaluate.  It starts with change in pattern, then change in respect.  The last thing  left to do is to ask for space.  You cannot break down when this happens.  Don't start trying to do the things that it takes when he is on the way out of the door.  You have to work at relationships throughout.  Often times, women come to me to ask what they are to do after the fact.  No one is knocking down my door when they are acting up.  It is when the guy says that he can't take any more and wants out.  Ladies, we have to work on ourselves the whole time.  You have to work on your side of the fence as you go.  His words and his body language tell you all along what he is looking for.  If that is not you and not who you desire to be, then don't keep moving in the relationship.  If that is you, then be that and things will work out.  In other words, you can only pretend so long.  It is one thing to be a work in progress, but a whole different thing to act like someone you are not and then the veil is moved.  Listen to what your mate is saying and be true to yourself.  If you are not a housewife at heart, then you will never be one.  If you are naturally argumentative, then eventually this will come out.  Be you but be willing to compromise along the way.  A relationship should be based on balance and not just you getting your way or he his.  It has to be a two way street.  Relationships take commitment from both parties and not just one.

SW